A Light That Shines On
Hmmm…my big mummy. I really can’t believe you’re gone, I’m still in denial. A piece of my heart feels hollow, a void that aches with your absence, the world seems a little dimmer without your light.
Big mummy was the most selfless person ever, she never put herself first. She had a way of making everyone feel welcome, she always had a vibrant smile on. Grandma big mummy as we fondly called her was one person who would always cheer you up when you’re sad. I remember when I got my JAMB result and I was crying so hard cause I ‘failed’ big Mummy called me and cheered me up ,she said ‘’Ah Mosoppy, you’re crying? Please, wipe your tears, you did very well, you’ve gotten into the university with this result, this is a very good result, please stop crying, do you want God to be angry with you? This is you being ungrateful o, oya start dancing also go and ask God for forgiveness’’. Then she proceeded to sing for me. Grandma big mummy goes above and beyond, Big Mummy always knew how to make me feel better. I remember one time when I had a stomach ache and was crying, she picked me up, held me close, told me to sit on her laps and she prayed for me and told me to rest on her chest. It felt like the pain just melted away. She was always there for me, with a kind word, a warm hug, and a listening ear. She taught me the importance of compassion, selflessness and kindness.
Big mummy was simply the most caring, i remember when there was no cash in my school and my debit card wasn’t working also. I didn’t inform anyone about it when big mummy heard about it, she was so angry because I hadn’t eaten for over 24hours. She called different people that stayed around my school to bring cash for me. Big mummy hated it when I was yelled at by my parents whenever they yell at me in front of her, she’ll carry me on her laps, she’ll ‘yinmu’ and say “ko ra e da saun, fi omo mi sile”
One of the best parts of my last holiday was staying at Big Mummy’s house. She always knew how to make me feel comfortable and happy. Even though she teased me about watching TV, she encouraged me to pick up a book instead. I remember her saying, “drop your phone and lose yourself in a story!” She even told me to sit by her while she did her work, It wasn’t just about reading, it was about spending quality time together including the random gists in between.
Big Mummy is also very hilarious! After I confessed I never actually finished the book, she just laughed and said, “well, what have you learned from not finishing it then?” We both cracked up. But then, in true Big Mummy fashion, she surprised me. Instead of suggesting another book she said, ‘’why don’t you go out and make some memories with your friends in Ibadan? Consider it sponsored by your favourite Big Mummy!’’ And just like that, our reading session turned into an exciting plan for a fun outing with friends.
Big Mummy had a way of always making me laugh, even when she was teasing me. I remember one time we went out for her wedding anniversary, and I didn’t care for the corn pudding because I didn’t like it. She playfully called me a “bush girl’’ and we spent the rest of the night joking about it. It wasn’t just about the food, though; it was about enjoying her company and creating happy memories together.I’ll miss our funny banter, the way she could always make me smile, even on my worst days. She had a kind heart and a contagious laugh, and I’m so grateful to have had her in my life.
Beyond the laughter and fun, I’ll also miss the quieter moments with Big Mummy. We used to have these devotions at night, sharing stories and reading the Bible together. It was so fun,especially the praise! So, I’ll never get to see you dance whilst shaking your shekere again? Hmmm…
One memory that always makes me smile is the time I accidentally broke the bathroom door. I was scared,bracing myself for a scolding, but all she said was, “oh, were you wrestling with the door?” Her laugh filled the room, and in that moment, my worry melted away. She had a knack for turning any situation into a positive one. The simple everyday moments, shared jokes – these are the treasures I grieve most.
I’m so grateful and genuinely happy I got to have someone like you as my Aunty.
Big mummy,I’ll hold onto those memories tightly, carrying them forward as guiding lights. The fact I’ll never get to hear “Ashoppymy darling” ever again is devastating. While grief may linger, it’s intertwined with gratitude for the time we shared. I’m grateful for the time I spent with you,I’m grateful for knowing you and having you as an Aunt,you’re simply the BEST! These are gifts I’ll treasure forever.
Though our paths have diverged, I know you’re cheering me onand that thought brings me comfort,understanding that you’re in a better place makes me feel so much better.This isn’t goodbye, but rather a see you later. Until then…I love you forever, Grandma Big Mummy.
Keep resting,I miss you more than words can say, but I know you would want me to keep smiling and not crying.
Love always,
Your niece,
Mosopefoluwa Idowu
